Sometimes you have to get an external perspective in order to see why a certain approach (like wearing them down) doesn’t work. The thing is though that when you see this sort of approach in the media, it’s in a positive light. Seth Cohen on The OC, Andy Bernard on The Office, Boyle on Brooklyn Nine Nine. I realized this years and years ago when speaking with a female friend and she was talking about a clingy dude who just wouldn’t move on despite her giving him a clear signal that she wasn’t into him. And everything she said made me super embarrassed inside because I was just like…”oh man…I did that once…I probably ended up as a cautionary tale too.”
Point is, if she ain’t into you, you can’t make her into you. No matter how many Foo Fighters songs you cover for her.